It’s June and many brides and bridegrooms will be walking down the aisle of a church repeating vows and entering into marriage to start a new life together. Having been married for 25 years, I can only imagine the adventures and challenges, the rewards and heartaches but hopefully, the immense joy that the couples will experience as they endeavor to cultivate a healthy and loving relationship for themselves during this very sweet time in their lives.

I don’t have any plans to attend any weddings this month (however I did sit with a “June Bride” yesterday), but if I did, I would pass along to them as a wedding gift three items: “spiritual Visine™, Q-tips™ and Listerine™.” You may be thinking what a curious wedding gift…toiletry items?  Absolutely, and here’s why.

visineMetaphorically, Visine™ has helped me to see life’s issues, arguments, encounters and experiences clearer, better and far beyond what I’ve normally been capable of seeing. The use of Visine has helped me to empathetically see the other side of issues, as well as to capture and retain the “seemingly insignificant” moments that make for the joyful memories in life with my wife, children, work, ministry etc. When I found my “spiritual Visine” in the supermarket of life, I’ve bought cases of it and I encourage newlyweds to stock up on this valuable item for their personal and relational betterment!

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Not far from the Visine resides the Q-tips™. The “spiritual Q-tips” helped me to clean up and clear away the blockage of unnecessary noise (from within myself or from outside of me) that has prohibited me from listening to and hearing what my God, family members and others needed me to hear, again far beyond my normal range and capability. I so value this item because it’s helped me to be a better counselor, spouse and parent, and I’ve treasured the many things that God has spoken to me that I was able to hear and respond to in a timely fashion solely due to possessing and using this incredible gift!


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Finally, I’ve said many things during my life and marriage that I regret because they were offensive, didn’t need to be said, were immature, selfish, not thought through and were downright hurtful to others. The “spiritual Listerine” has helped with my “psychological bad breath” by helping me to think about what I need to say, only say what I need to say, and to not harm others when I say it. It’s helped me to think “what would be the impact of what I’m about to say upon this person? Do I really need to say it in the manner that I’m feeling? What would be the better way? O.K., proceed with with caution.”  This item and process has saved my hide many times when I psychologically gargle with this. I strongly recommend it!

What about you?  Could you benefit from a trip to the supermarket to purchase a few key and necessary items such as these? If you’re just starting out in marriage, or if you’re single, or dating or if you’ve been married for many years, my hope is that these therapeutic and useful items will find their way into “your shopping cart” to enhance your life and your relationships.

Thanks for visiting and please visit the other blogs written by Dr Ken McGill: Dr Ken McGill’s blog and Daily Bread for Life for additional information that could be helpful. I welcome your comments below or via email and your favorites, your retweets and your “+1’s” if you have a brief moment and find the information helpful, please pass along a rating or review of my book Daily Bread for Life, Vol. 1 in the Amazon bookstore. Again, it is my desire to provide the very best info for your consideration.

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About Dr Ken McGill

Dr. Ken McGill is an ordained minister and has been involved in counseling for more than 25 years. Dr. McGill holds a Bachelor's degree in Religion from Pacific Christian College (now Hope International University), a Certificate of Completion in the Alcohol and Drug Studies/Counseling Program from the University of California at Los Angeles and a Masters degree in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University. Dr. McGill received his Doctorate in Clinical Psychology with an emphasis in Family Psychology from Azusa Pacific University in May, 2003. Dr. McGill's dissertation focused on the development of an integrated treatment program for the sexually addicted homeless population, and Ken was "personally mentored" by dissertation committee member Dr. Patrick Carnes, a pioneer in the field of sex addiction work. Dr. McGill authored a chapter in the text The Clinical Management of Sex Addiction, with his chapter addressing the homeless and sex addiction. Dr. McGill is also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the States of Texas and California and Mississippi, and is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, through the International Institute for Trauma and Addictive Professionals (IITAP). Dr. McGill had a private practice in Glendora, CA (Aspen Counseling Center), Inglewood, CA (Faithful Central Bible Church), and Hattiesburg, MS (River of Life Church), specializing in the following areas with individuals, couples, families, groups and psychoeducational training: addictions and recovery, pre-marital, marital and family counseling, issues related to traumatization and abuse, as well as depression, grief, loss, anger management and men's and women's issues. Dr. McGill also provided psychotherapeutic treatment with Student-Athletes on the University of Southern Mississippi Football and Men's Basketball teams. Dr. McGill served as the Director of the Gentle Path Program, which is a seven-week residential program, for people who are challenged with sexual addiction, sexual anorexia, and relationship issues. Dr. McGill also supervised Doctoral students in the Southern Mississippi Psychology Internship Consortium with the University of Southern Mississippi. Dr. McGill was inducted into the Azusa Pacific University Academic Hall of Honor, School of Behavioral and Applied Sciences, in October, 2010. Dr. McGill currently works as a Private practice clinician with an office in Plano, Texas, providing treatment with people who are challenged in the areas mentioned above.