It is fitting that having authored 5 books on the subject of cultivating love, that the first post in this new blog is on the subject of…love.

Per the title, I think the Beatles song by the same name was the first, upbeat and positive message that I can recall that encouraged me to focus on this characteristic, and some 40 years later I am still fascinated by the subject of love and how our lives are changed by the presence or absence of this necessary trait.

My studies and readings have helped me to see that Love has many different “faces” or ways that we see and experience it, but I have found that the best way to understand and deliver love in a healthy manner for my benefit and for the benefit of others is to grow and practice the behavioral characteristics of Love, which are Esteem, Respect, Honor, Favor, Acceptance, Cherishing, “Prizing,” Relishing and being Devoted to another. I have found that the practice of these characteristics brings me much joy and peace in my life, and tends to help me to have really good encounters with others.

I have also found that my understanding of what Love is tends to become heightened and strengthened when I maintain a conscious contact with my God.  I maintain my contact with God through prayer, reading, reflection, study and meditation regarding how God defines love and helps me to grow/give love to myself, then directs me in providing healthy expressions of love to others.  God also helps me to be patient with myself and with others when the best of my thinking doesn’t quite create the loving outcomes that I would like to create and facilitate.

So how about you?  How do you define love?  What motivates you to do loving things for yourself and for others?  How does your relationship with God help you to grow and deliver love to others?  How do you think you and others in your life could be different if you practiced loving behaviors on a consistent basis?  What response do you think you would experience and get if you told someone that you loved them today?

The Beatles song (and others) is playing in my head.  I am inspired and encouraged spiritually to “love others” as I listen to it.  Is there a song that you heard a long time ago (or recently) that could inspire you, brighten your day and subsequently spur you on to engaging in loving behaviors?  As time permits, let me encourage you to listen to it and let your spirit guide you into experiencing and delivering some loving behaviors.

Thanks for reading and have a great day!

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  1. Thank you Ken, great reminder!

    Kindly,
    Mari A. Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S

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  2. Thank Ken! Love you blog. I like ‘Into the Mystic’ by Van Morrison to remind me of the eternity of love within our finite limitation and ‘Ronan’ by Taylor Swift in memory of Ronan Thompson to remember that every moment of love counts! All good things!
    Helen Thomas

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About Dr Ken McGill

Dr. Ken McGill is an ordained minister and has been involved in counseling for more than 25 years. Dr. McGill holds a Bachelor's degree in Religion from Pacific Christian College (now Hope International University), a Certificate of Completion in the Alcohol and Drug Studies/Counseling Program from the University of California at Los Angeles and a Masters degree in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University. Dr. McGill received his Doctorate in Clinical Psychology with an emphasis in Family Psychology from Azusa Pacific University in May, 2003. Dr. McGill's dissertation focused on the development of an integrated treatment program for the sexually addicted homeless population, and Ken was "personally mentored" by dissertation committee member Dr. Patrick Carnes, a pioneer in the field of sex addiction work. Dr. McGill authored a chapter in the text The Clinical Management of Sex Addiction, with his chapter addressing the homeless and sex addiction. Dr. McGill is also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the States of Texas and California and Mississippi, and is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, through the International Institute for Trauma and Addictive Professionals (IITAP). Dr. McGill had a private practice in Glendora, CA (Aspen Counseling Center), Inglewood, CA (Faithful Central Bible Church), and Hattiesburg, MS (River of Life Church), specializing in the following areas with individuals, couples, families, groups and psychoeducational training: addictions and recovery, pre-marital, marital and family counseling, issues related to traumatization and abuse, as well as depression, grief, loss, anger management and men's and women's issues. Dr. McGill also provided psychotherapeutic treatment with Student-Athletes on the University of Southern Mississippi Football and Men's Basketball teams. Dr. McGill served as the Director of the Gentle Path Program, which is a seven-week residential program, for people who are challenged with sexual addiction, sexual anorexia, and relationship issues. Dr. McGill also supervised Doctoral students in the Southern Mississippi Psychology Internship Consortium with the University of Southern Mississippi. Dr. McGill was inducted into the Azusa Pacific University Academic Hall of Honor, School of Behavioral and Applied Sciences, in October, 2010. Dr. McGill currently works as a Private practice clinician with an office in Plano, Texas, providing treatment with people who are challenged in the areas mentioned above.

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